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Making Custody Decisions In Divorce
Deciding where your child lives can be a battle between you and your ex. But, it doesn’t have to be. There are a few different ways that you can come to this decision. Figuring out what is best for your child can be a complex process. Consider some of these factors before making a decision of where your child will live.
Of course you probably want your child to primarily live with you. But, there are other factors at play here. You should sit down with your ex to think about the best situation for your child. Consider factors such as:
- School districts.
- What your child wants.
- Your child’s needs and each parent’s’ ability to meet these needs.
- Your child’s current relationship with each parent.
- Each parent’s stability.
- What each parent wants for custody.
- Other people living at each resident, such as other children, a new spouse or significant other, etc.
If you and your ex come up with an agreement that is pleasing to both of you, it might be accepted by the court. A judge will want to make sure that what you decide is in the best interest of your child. They will consider the above factors and additional factors to determine what is in your child’s best interest.
If you and your ex cannot come to an agreement, a judge will decide custody orders for you. The judge will consider you and your ex’s current situation and make a decision for you. Again, the judge will base this decision on what they believe is in the child’s best interest.
In some states, children have a say in which parent they primarily live with after divorce. Every state has different statutes related to this. Some states allow children to decide when they reach a certain age. Other states never allow children to make this decision. In Connecticut, the court will take your child’s preference into consideration. But, this is treated as just one of the factors in the decision. The child’s preference will not make the decision for the court. The court allows children “of significant age” to let the judge know what their preference is. But, they cannot make this decision for themselves in the State of Connecticut.
If you and your ex want to choose a custody decision among yourselves, be prepared to reach a compromise. Your first priority should be making sure that your child is happy and taken care of. If you both have this goal, you should be able to figure out the rest. If you have difficulty making this decision, you can turn to the court. But, remember that you might not like the judge’s custody orders. If this is the case, you won’t be able to do anything about it. You should also talk to your child to see what they want out of this and make sure that you or a judge takes their wishes into consideration.
If you need help determining custody for your child, seeking the help of a lawyer is a good idea. I can walk you through this process and make sure that you are treated fairly throughout it. Contact my office if you need help with custody matters or the divorce process in general.